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Sermon Notes – June 15, 2025 – “Embrace the Suck”

“Embrace the Suck”

Father Peter Fitzgibbons

June 14 – 15, 2025

Gospel:  John 16:12-15

A number of years ago, I was having dinner with some priests, and there was one priest who was complaining a lot.  He was not a happy camper and was having a very bad year.  Finally, the smart-aleck in me came out and I said to him, “Father, come down from the cross. We need the wood.”   He did not appreciate my insight.  We all have bad days.  We let off steam by voicing our discontent with situations, and that’s okay.  It’s normal.  Saint Paul did that; he complained about the thorn in his flesh and the cross he had to carry.  He asked the Lord to take the cross from him, and the Lord said, “No.  My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (2Corinthians 12:9).  Then Paul understood: “Now I rejoice in my sufferings for your sake, and in my flesh, I complete what is lacking in Christ’s afflictions for the sake of his body, that is, the church” (Colossians 1:24).

Sometimes our crosses are primarily in one part of the body.  However, when your foot hurts, your whole body is sick.  If you have a headache, your whole body is sick.  Whatever part of the body is sick affects the whole body.  Some of our crosses can be long crosses that we have to carry all our lives.  For example, my parents gave me good looks but no money, and it really sucks to be poor!  Other crosses can be temporary, like going to the gas chamber.  As we say in the military, “embrace the suck.”  We can laugh about it afterward.   

So, we have an opportunity to participate in Christ’s redemptive acts by joining our suffering to His.  Just like the Blessed Mother, who, along with Saint John and Mary Clopas, watched her Son die on the Cross.  Each day, we have the sublime opportunity to participate in the redemptive power of Christ.  We can embrace our crosses and offer them up as penance for our own sin and in union with the Most Holy Sacrifice of the Mass.   The Sacrifice on the Crucifix is always before the Father in Heaven pleading for us and for everyone.  We gain strength from His sacrifice, so that we can offer up our suffering for ourselves and for others.   The beautiful part is that we do not have to like our sufferings.  When I had Covid, I offered it up every day.  Did I find it enjoyable?  Did anyone around me find it enjoyable?  Not likely.  When I’m sick, give me a cigarette and a luger, and I will do the honorable thing.  I came over here to the church to walk and say my prayers, meditate, and say the Rosary.  I thought I was a tough guy.  I made it halfway around the church and had to sit down.  Did I enjoy the four to six weeks I was sick?  Nope.  Although it was very slimming because I lost my appetite.   But I offered it up because I knew it would do some good.  Did I like it?  Oh, hell no.   But it would help others, and that was what was important. 

Some people are given gifts so that they can help others financially or materially.  They may be gifted in a trade, and that’s wonderful.  The Misfits don’t let me handle power tools.  I won’t forget that, Bob.  That really hurt.  We all have different gifts to use in building up the Body of Christ.  Offer up all your sufferings to the Savior for the salvation of souls.  We can be coworkers with Christ in the mission of redemption.  How marvelous that gift is!  But like many great gifts, it is hidden below a bunch of garbage.  Who would think that having illnesses and suffering is a good thing?  None of us.  But it is and it can be a wondrous thing.  I remember one man who was a major in the 101st Airborne.  His mother-in-law was suffering from end-stage ovarian cancer.  Her last wish during her final days was to eat a hamburger.  That was the only thing she wanted.  Her son-in-law, who thought he was a tough guy, said, “Lord, I will take her pain for a day so that she can have a hamburger.”  The next day, she had a hamburger.  That same day, her son-in-law was in the hospital at Fort Campbell.  He took all her pain upon himself.  Sometimes the results are immediate when we take another person’s pain upon ourselves, but they are always work. 

Now, there is one important caveat in all of this.  We do not have to like our sufferings, and because we offer them up each day doesn’t mean they become more enjoyable.  But we offer them up, and we know intellectually and spiritually that our sufferings are doing good.  They are redemptive not only for us but for others.  Never lose sight of that.  “Oh God!  I’m so happy because I’m suffering!”   Uh-Huh.  We have pills for that.  Take all your sufferings and join them with the sufferings of Christ for the salvation of souls.  Some of your pain may go away.  I don’t know, but sometimes that happens.  This is how we can join Christ.  We can become part of Christ’s Sacrifice by truly joining our sacrifice with His. 

How will you apply this message to your life? _________________________________________

You can read all of Father Fitzgibbons’ sermons by going to AnnunciationCatholicAlbemarle.com, clicking on “Blog,” then “Categories,” and then “Sermon Notes.”  On a cell phone: click on “Blog” and then “Menu.”  Scroll to the bottom and click on “Categories.”  Sermon Notes are also available on the Church’s Facebook page at OLA.Catholic.Church.  Click on “Groups” and then “Sermon Notes. 

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The Brutal Truth About Holiness (with Father Mike Schmitz)

When you think of holiness, what comes to mind? Is it a saint who has never stumbled? Does the idea of holiness feel out of reach when you’re grappling with your own brokenness or the weight of your sins?

Today, Fr. Mike reminds us that the journey to holiness isn’t always a straight path. There are both good days and bad. Yet, despite our flaws and failures, God’s grace and mercy remain abundant, offering hope and renewal.

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Our Brokenness Draws Him Close

When we are broken by sin, shattered in a million pieces, we are closer to the Lord than we could ever imagine.

It is our brokenness that draws Him close.

It is our heartfelt confession that lets Him in.

It is our heart completely undone, solely in need of God to be made whole that receives His grace, that knows His forgiveness, that becomes whole in His hands, held tightly together by His mercy and love.~❤

~Stacy L. Sanchez / Heartprints of God

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The Rosary in a Year – Day 13 – Full of Grace

As we pray the rosary, we can focus on the words of the prayers we’re saying, especially the words of the Hail Mary. Fr. Mark-Mary explains the Biblical roots of the Hail Mary, leading us in a meditation of love for Mary. Today’s focus is “Hail Mary, full of grace,” and we will be praying one Our Father, three Hail Marys, and one Glory Be.

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“Holy” Does Not Mean “Perfect”

Holiness is not something we can achieve on our own—is it a grace we ask of God, and he promises that he will grant it to us. But often, the first step is acknowledging your weaknesses, accepting their existence, and handing them to God in total surrender.

Fr. Mike and Sr. Miriam explore that journey in this clip from Fr. Mike’s conversation w/ Sr. Miriam about Advent, healing, and forgiveness.

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Sermon Notes – April 7, 2024 – “You Must Be Willing to Try”

“You Must Be Willing to Try”

Father Peter Fitzgibbons

April 6 – 7, 2024

Gospel: John 20: 19-31

When we go to Confession we are praying scripturally.  Now, this doesn’t happen very often, but I pray it happens to you because it will comfort and strengthen your faith.  We kneel and say, “Bless me Father for I have sinned.”  Our image of each other through the grate in the confessional is a bit hazy on purpose because I’m not supposed to recognize anyone.  In the hazy light, you may think that Father is growing a beard and has hair.  He has a certain glow about him, and he looks healthy because he doesn’t have that pale look he usually has.  Is that the father we know?”  Yes and no.  It’s my human body but you’ve been given the eyes of angels because you see Christ on the other side of that partition.  It is Christ who forgives sins.  It is Christ who hears your confession.  In His hand, He holds the chalice that is filled with His Precious Blood from His sacred wounds.  When He gives you absolution, He dips His hand into the chalice and anoints your soul with His Precious Blood for the remission of your sins.  As the Pentecostals say, “You’ve been washed in the blood.”  All your sins are forgiven and forgotten.  Your soul is infused with sanctifying and actual grace.  It is Christ who forgives your sins.  He uses my human nature just as our Good Lord heals you through the actions of good physicians and nurses.  This is one of the gifts He gives us and the fruits for which He sacrificed Himself so that we may have eternal life and forgiveness of our sins. 

I went to confession two weeks ago.  I do not ask you to do what I will not do myself.  Belief is proved by action.  Sometimes it is frightening to go to confession.   It can also be frightening to go to the doctor.  “Oh, my goodness!”   Going to the dentist can also be a really pleasant experience.  But why do we get nervous?  The doctors are going to do the best they can for you, reassure you, and make your life more pleasant.  That’s what I try to do on my hospital rounds.  It usually happens with drug addicts and alcoholics in the Emergency Room.  They are all nervous and upset.  I remember one man who served in Afghanistan as an Army first sergeant, and he was crying his eyes out.  He said, “You are going to throw me out of here!”  I said, “We don’t shoot our wounded.”  After that, I usually take out my business card and write my cell phone number on the back.   I tell them, “If you have a problem while you’re here, call me.  I know people.  If you have a problem, I’ll get it taken care of.”  In my 13 years at the VA Hospital, I’ve never had anyone call me. 

I always like it when people say, “We have scriptural beliefs.”  Really.  “We are a bible believing church!”  Really.  Scripture says that “Jesus did many other signs in the presence of [his] disciples that are not written” (John 2:30).  Not everything was written down.  After three years of ministry, if that’s all He did, He didn’t do much.  But the Word stayed with the Apostles which is called “tradition” and they taught it.  If you believe in Scripture, then go to Confession because He gave the power to the Apostles, bishops, and priests to absolve sin (John 20:21-23).  It says that in the black part of scripture not the white part. 

But we are all scared to go to Confession.  Why, I don’t know.  Actually, I do know.  It’s our pride.  Because you think that you are going to tell Christ, which is me acting in His person, something I haven’t heard before.  Very unlikely.  Moral Theology is a class we took before the Penance course at seminary, and it consisted of two very thick textbooks.  I’ve had people say, “Oh, I’ve committed every sin in the book!”  Okay, let’s see.  So, you married your first cousin and had relations with her?  “No, Father!  Okay, that’s one chapter from the textbook gone.  Did you fool around with animals?  “No!”  Okay, that’s another chapter gone.  The textbooks are getting thinner and thinner as we talk.   My point is that you are not going to surprise me.  It’s like when I go into hospital rooms and patients pull their bed sheets up around their chins.  I wish they all did that, but I tell them that I’ve seen more body parts than they will ever have. Occasionally, I have to say that to the Spanish because some of them wear very low-cut dresses.  Cover up!  I’ve seen more than that in the hospital. 

We have to say what we are sorry for as best as we can.  I cannot prescribe something for that which I don’t know about.  Doctors would never prescribe anyone pain medicine who said, “Oh, I have a terrible headache!  I need some oxycontin.”  The doctor is not going to say, “No problem, and I’ll make the prescription refillable too.”  Nope.  That would never happen.  If they did that, they would be over at FU (Felon University), and I’d be visiting them there.  In fact, I met a PA (physician’s assistant) at FU who was there for doing that same kind of funny stuff.  The physician may want to take a little peek because the problem could be sinuses, or it could be a brain tumor.  It’s the same with spiritual life.  The medicine I prescribe for your soul will depend on what I know.  The one thing priests cannot forgive is people who live in an objective state of sin.  For example, they have a bad marriage, or they are in a relationship that they are unwilling to leave or even try.   If you are unwilling to try, I cannot help you.  “Hey, I’ll give you cancer treatments if you’ll stop smoking.”  “But I don’t want to stop smoking.”   My older brother did that.  He had Hepatitis C, and the doctor said that he could cure it if he stopped drinking.   My brother said, “Nope,” and he did not have a good outcome.  We are all sinners, but you have to be willing to try. 

I do this all the time at the VA Hospital for patients who are getting a celestial discharge.  I don’t ask if I can give them Last Rites.  Instead, I say, “I’m going to give you Last Rites, okay?”  They usually say, “Yes.  Thank you, Father.”  Then I will ask, “When was the last time you went to Confession?”  I never ask if they would like to go to Confession.   When I ask them about the last time they went to Confession, I say it in a command-like tone, and that snaps them right back to their military days and they tell me.  Then I ask, “What are your sins?”  Of course, half of them can’t remember because they are usually sedated.  So, I say, “Key question: Are you sorry for all of your sins, those you remember and those you don’t?”   “Yes.”  Right answer, and I absolve them of their sins. 

There are two types of sorrow – perfect and imperfect contrition.  Perfect sorrow or contrition is when you are sorry for hurting the one you love.  You are sorry for offending them because you love them, and they are worthy of all your love as God Almighty is.  Imperfect contrition is when you are sorry because you got caught.  Ask a police officer how many people cry right before they get a ticket.  “I didn’t know!”   Well, here is a ticket as a reminder.  Imperfect contrition is sufficient. 

Remember, just because you don’t see Christ while in the confessional as I act in His person, doesn’t mean He’s not there.  Likewise, just because you don’t see law enforcement officers on Highway 52 while driving to Salisbury doesn’t mean they aren’t there.

How will you apply this message to your life?  ________________________________________

You can read all of Father Fitzgibbons’ sermons by going to AnnunciationCatholicAlbemarle.com, clicking on “Blog” then “Categories” and then “Sermon Notes.”  On a cell phone: click on “Blog” and then “Menu.”  Scroll to the bottom and click on “Categories.”  Sermon Notes are also available on the Church’s Facebook page at OLA.Catholic.Church.  Click on “Groups” and then “Sermon Notes.”