“One of the things that keeps us from finding our way in this world and becoming the best-version-of-ourselves is our desire for psychological comfort. When we have thoughts or feelings that make us psychologically uncomfortable, we rush back to our old thoughts and feelings. The problem is they drag us back into the past. It’s often the uncomfortable thoughts and feelings that are trying to lead to toward our bigger, better future.
Here are four examples:
1. You feel lost. Great. The people who are really lost have no idea how lost they are. The fact that you are aware of it is a great sign. Listen to that feeling. Explore what it is trying to tell you.
2. You are angrier than usual. Excellent. This means you are probably getting in touch with your dissatisfaction. Listen to your dissatisfaction. It will teach you how to improve your life. 3. You friends are driving you crazy. Friends drive us crazy for two main reasons: They are dragging us down or they are challenging us to grow and we are resisting. Which is it? You may just need some new friends for the next season of your life. Most people are the average of the five people they spend the most time with.
4. You feel like you need to grow up. Whether you are 14 or 64, this is a great sign. Growing older and growing up are two different things. Growing up is about becoming your own person, establishing boundaries, and taking responsibly for yourself and your life.
These are four signs you are on the right path. They may be uncomfortable, but they come bearing wisdom. Remember, feelings aren’t good or bad, they are just messengers. Listen carefully to the messages they are delivering, and they will lead you to a more fulfilling life.”