Bible Love Notes – 8 Steps to Overcome Bitterness

When dealing with injustice and bitterness, make this your daily “to do” list:

1. Trust God to use the situation for good (Romans 8:28).

2. Put your hope in God alone, not circumstances or earthly justice (Psalm 62).

3. Focus on the good things in your life (Philippians 4:8).

4. When unproductive thoughts overtake you, pray for your offender. And, if God prompts you to bless your offender in some tangible way, obey Him (Romans 12:14, 17-21).

5. Refuse false blame from Satan (1 Peter 5:8-9).

6. But listen carefully to God’s conviction and genuinely repent of any sinful attitudes or actions you have, no matter how small in comparison to your offender (1 John 1:9).

7. Release all bitterness by the power of God’s Spirit because you can’t do it on your own (Ephesians 3:20-21Philippians 4:13).

Bitterness destroys, but God restores!

8. Remind yourself that you are doing these things because you love Christ and owe Him your life (1 Corinthians 6:19-20).

These things have helped me when I’m dealing with injustice and bitterness. I hope they will help you as well. 

Bible Love Notes – I Can’t Be Happy Unless….

Someone deeply wounded my heart. I “knew” I couldn’t be happy unless we reconciled. I prayed, pleaded and wept for reconciliation. But the other person wasn’t interested.

Months became years, and finally I realized the situation might never change… I needed to change.

Max Lucado writes about this: “Are you hoping that a change in circumstances will bring a change in your attitude? If so, you are in prison … What you have in your Shepherd is greater than what you don’t have in life.”(1)

I’d been in prison, letting my happiness rest on fixing something I couldn’t fix. Finally, I realized that my Shepherd’s love is greater than my pain. He’s all I need for contentment and joy.

It’s a process, but I’m learning to “Rejoice in the Lord always” and allow “the peace of God, which transcends all understanding”  to guard my heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:4-7

Bible Love Notes – Stop Shifting the Blame

We are easily influenced by false cultural views of sin. That’s why it’s so important that Christians remember:

1. Environment and circumstances don’t make us sin.

It’s popular to blame environment or circumstances for bad behavior, but that’s not Biblical. 

Scripture says we choose sin (Genesis 4:7John 3:19;James 4:17). 

We aren’t born perfect and then messed up by our environment. We’re born messed up (Romans 5:12).

Change comes when we recognize our fallen nature and take responsibility for our sins, and turn to Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17).

Daniel spent his life in an evil pagan environment, but he made right choices.

2. Parents are NOT responsible for how their adult children turn out.

This is a natural spin-off of belief #1. 

If an adult child makes terrible choices, we often look for fault in the parents, not the adult child. 

Parents are responsible TO God for how they parent but not responsible FOR their adult children’s choices (Ezekiel 18:20).

Joseph had a dysfunctional family, but he made right choices.

We need to follow these examples and take responsibility for our choices.

We’d be wise to regularly read the strong warning in 1 John 1:8-10.

Bible Love Notes – 3 Things to Remember When Going Through Difficulty

For years I’ve prayed fervently about a sad situation, but it remains the same.

  • I’ve begged God for answers that haven’t come.
  • I’ve “known” God would fix it.
  • I’ve gotten depressed.
  • I’ve obsessed over it.

But as the years have gone on, I’m learning to simply trust God. 

Now my prayers are more like this:
“Dear Lord, you know how much I want this situation to change, but if You are allowing it for my good (Romans 8:28), help me deal with it in ways that please You.”

We don’t understand every reason God allows hardships in our lives, but I know this trial has:

1. Reminded me how much I need God.
2 Corinthians 1:8-9

2. Given me compassion for others who are suffering.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4

3. Taught me perseverance.
James 1:2-4

Are you suffering in some area of your life? Then join me in depending on His strength, comforting others, and persevering!